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Middle Aged Desire: Two Scenes and a Moral

Over the weekend, I had two encounters which prompted me to think about desire in middle age. Borrowing a page from the wonderful Formerly Hot, I...

Over the weekend, I had two encounters which prompted me to think about desire in middle age. Borrowing a page from the wonderful Formerly Hot, I thought I’d share them with you:


Setting: Grim public library in London on rainy, Saturday afternoon. DELIA stands hunched over computer, desperately searching for CD of first Pirates of the Caribbean movie for son before daughter’s ballet class finishes. She is clad in loose-fitting long, dark Eddie Bauer-style winter parka, which she hasn’t bothered to take off because she is in such a hurry. She looks vaguely like a parking lot attendant, save the over-stuffed cloth bag from Daunt Books, which hangs precariously over one shoulder.

MAN of unknown age, face and ethnicity approaches neighboring computer terminal and also begins typing.

MAN (clearing throat): Um…is this the library catalog?

DELIA (not looking up): Yes.

MAN (noticing her accent): Oh! Are you American?

DELIA (still typing): Yes.

MAN: How long are you visiting for?

DELIA (distracted): I live here.

MAN: With your husband?


MAN flees.


My First Thought: Yay! I’ve still got it!

My Second Thought: Wait a minute…he never saw my face, I’m wearing a tent, and he basically only approached me because…I’m female.

My Third Thought: Gross.


Setting: Camden Town restaurant where two middle-aged couples pour over the film Up In The Air, which they’ve just seen.

HUSBAND: Call me crazy, but I just don’t think Vera Farmiga is all that hot.


My First Thought: What is he smoking?

My Second Thought: Yay! My husband finds me more attractive than Vera Farmiga.

My Third Thought: What am *I* smoking?
Moral of Both Stories: There’s no accounting for taste.

Stay tuned for my thoughts on why Up In The Air is a really grown-up movie…

Image: Untitled by Jfer via Flickr under a Creative Commons license.

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  1. jmmnewaov2 January 18, 2010 at 4:13 pm #

    Hi Delia – this is a very nice piece of writing , and it is a very clever and fun website that you have here.

    Your image of the woman (you) facing the sea wearing the white woolen knit cap on her head and the top of the ankle-length winter parka reminds me of the photo of myself taken 5 days ago. I am standing on the beach in Venice Florida, and I am wearing my winter parka. I’ve lived in Florida for almost two years now and that was the only time I needed that much coat.

    I look forward to reading your review of Up In The Air.

    If you like, you can read my review of Up In The Air here:



    • delialloyd January 19, 2010 at 11:56 am #

      Hi JMM-thank you! I’d love to read your review but will wait until I’ve done mine…nice of you to stop by! Delia

  2. Ranie January 18, 2010 at 4:53 pm #

    Love your writing and look forward to reading it every post. When I saw the title I assumed/hoped it would be about FEMALE middle-aged desire. Do WE look at men and desire them in our middle age?

    • delialloyd January 19, 2010 at 11:57 am #

      Thanks Ranie…I like that idea. Am going to put it in the hopper! Cheers!

  3. Jean January 18, 2010 at 7:43 pm #

    Hilarious..yet so ture..


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