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		<title>Tips For Adulthood: Five Political Novels Worth Reading</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 30 Nov 2011 23:12:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Every Wednesday I offer tips for adulthood. Over the course of last week&#8217;s blackout at RealDelia &#8211; or &#8220;blogout,&#8221;  as I &#8216;m now calling it (Can I coin that term?) &#8211; one of the many things that caught my eye was an article by Zoe Williams in the Guardian suggesting that we should all ditch [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft" title="Protest 11 by marcovdc" src="http://farm5.staticflickr.com/4111/5018571838_1a1bdf7326_m.jpg" alt="" width="240" height="159" />Every Wednesday I offer tips for adulthood.</p>
<p>Over the course of last week&#8217;s blackout at RealDelia &#8211; or &#8220;blogout,&#8221;  as I &#8216;m now calling it (Can I coin that term?) &#8211; one of the many things that caught my eye was an article by Zoe Williams in the Guardian suggesting that <a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/theguardian/2011/nov/19/read-serious-books-zoe-williams" target="_blank">we should all ditch novels in favor of non-fiction</a>.</p>
<p>Her argument basically boiled down to the claim that  in dire, apocalyptic times like these, where we face the threat of global warming, financial crisis and political turmoil on a daily basis, we can&#8217;t afford to bury our heads in the airy-fairy world of fiction. Rather, we need to don our serious hats and seek to better understand the origin of earthquakes and trade deficits and the like.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m not sure I see that there&#8217;s necessarily a trade-off between the two. More to the point, however, I completely reject her premise that fiction is so obviously apolitical.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t know what sort of fiction Ms. Williams is reading &#8211; and I hope, and rather suspect &#8211; that she wrote the article as a form of link-bait more than anything else. But I read a lot of fiction, and much of it is not only political, but highly timely and relevant.</p>
<p>So, just as I once recommended<a href="http://realdelia.com/2011/02/tips-for-adulthood-five-political-films-worth-seeing/" target="_blank"> five political films worth viewing</a>, I hereby submit five recent political novels worth reading:</p>
<p>1. <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Freedom-Novel-Jonathan-Franzen/dp/0374158460" target="_blank">Freedom</a>. Say what you will about Jonathan Franzen&#8217;s latest epic novel about America. Some people loved it; some hated it. I was in the &#8220;loved it&#8221; camp. But however you felt, there is no denying that this is a deeply political novel about the United States at the turn of the twentieth century as it confronts the inevitable limitations and contradictions  embedded in its love-affair with personal choice. Along the way, we get a full-on immersion in party politics, environmentalism, college athletics and infidelity, all presented through the central prism of one family&#8217;s slow and painful collapse.</p>
<p>2. <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Ian-McEwan/e/B000AQ1USU/ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_1?qid=1322743953&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank">Saturday</a>. This novel traces a day in the life of a middle-class doctor in London who goes to work on that precise Saturday in 2003 when thousands of people turned out to protest the War in Iraq. OK, sure. The War in Iraq now feels like yesterday&#8217;s news. But the anger and outrage that brought all those people out onto the street  still exists, even if the target has changed. (Today, <a href="http://www.csmonitor.com/World/Europe/2011/1130/In-nationwide-strike-British-trade-union-workers-protest-pension-reform" target="_blank">two million people in this country participated in a 24-hour walk out</a> to protest against pension reforms put forth by the current government.)  But author Ian McEwan is also addressing a deeper point in this brilliantly crafted novel about the political mood in Britain post 9/11: what it means to be political and whether one can truly remain detached from politics in this day and age.</p>
<p><em>3. <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Tigers-Wife-Tea-Obreht/dp/0753827409/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1322693048&amp;sr=8-1" target="_blank">The Tiger&#8217;s Wife</a></em>. This novel has been nominated for every award in sight over the past year and justifiably so. It is a beautifully written, almost fable-like tale about family and history in twentieth century Yugoslavia. Although told with a sort of <a href="http://www.public.asu.edu/%7Eaarios/resourcebank/definitions/" target="_blank">magical realist</a> veneer, the horror and tragedy of the war that ripped apart this Balkan nation is never far below the surface. Plus, once you learn that the author, <a href="http://www.teaobreht.com/" target="_blank">Téa Obreht</a>, is only 25, you&#8217;ll be green with envy.</p>
<p>4.  <a href="http://www.amazon.com/White-Tiger-Novel-Aravind-Adiga/dp/1416562605/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1322693129&amp;sr=1-1http://www.amazon.com/White-Tiger-Novel-Aravind-Adiga/dp/1416562605/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1322693129&amp;sr=1-1" target="_blank"><em>The White Tiger</em></a>. Another beautifully written book which has the added bonus of being laugh-out-loud funny. This book addresses politics in the developing world &#8211; specifically India. Through the rags to riches story of one boy-turned-man, the author, Aravind Adiga, exposes two sides of India (and practically every other poor country out there):  the vast, seemingly endless stretches of poverty and kinship ties and the small, almost impenetrable circles of wealth and greed. It&#8217;s a damning  &#8211; if not humorous &#8211; indictment of how it really works in most countries facing a similar socio-economic predicament. You will laugh and cry in equal measure.</p>
<p>5. <a href="http://www.amazon.com/American-Wife-Novel-Curtis-Sittenfeld/dp/0812975405/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1322693455&amp;sr=1-1" target="_blank"><em>American Wife</em></a>. I just finished this (on the recommendation of a friend) and must confess that I could not put it down. As some of you may know, this book is a fictional account of Laura Bush&#8217;s life prior to and during her role as first lady. It&#8217;s not autobiographical in any way, shape or form, and is not meant to be factual, although it does include some incidents that bear an uncanny resemblance to Laura Bush&#8217;s life. I adored the author &#8211; Curtis Sittenfeld&#8217;s &#8211; first book, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Prep-Novel-Curtis-Sittenfeld/dp/081297235X/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1322693525&amp;sr=1-1" target="_blank">Prep</a>, about what it&#8217;s like to be a Midwestern misfit at a posh, East Coast boarding school. And American Wife has that same sort of observant, interior voice that was featured in Prep. It&#8217;s a book that will definitely make you think about marriage. But it will also make you think specifically about political marriages. In an era where the First Lady is widely being touted as <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2011/11/18/us/politics/michelle-obamas-mission-energizing-the-campaign.html" target="_blank">President Obama&#8217;s best &#8220;electoral weapon,&#8221;</a> how much are political spouses expected to believe in their candidates?</p>
<p>OK, so those are just a few of the political novels I pulled off the top of my head. I didn&#8217;t even include any of the explicitly 9/11 novels like <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Neverland-Douglas-Clegg/dp/B005Q62LJG/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1322693940&amp;sr=1-2" target="_blank">Neverland</a> and/or <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Submission-Novel-Amy-Waldman/dp/0374271569/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1322694091&amp;sr=1-1" target="_blank">The Submission</a> because I haven&#8217;t read either of them yet.</p>
<p>What am I missing? What good political novels have you read lately and would you like to add to the list?</p>
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		<title>Why I Envy Atheists</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 08 Nov 2011 18:01:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>delialloyd</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Every so often you read a book or watch a film that you need to put down or look away from because it cuts too close to the bone. So it was for me the other night when my husband and I finally finished watching the 1981 British television adaptation of Evelyn Waugh&#8217;s novel, Brideshead [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft" title="IMG_2994 by Franie Frou Frou" src="http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3178/3063367861_991dd06537_m.jpg" alt="" width="240" height="171" />Every so often you read a book or watch a film that you need to put down or look away from because it cuts too close to the bone.</p>
<p>So it was for me the other night when my husband and I finally finished watching the <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0083390/" target="_blank">1981 British television adaptation of Evelyn Waugh&#8217;s novel, Brideshead Revisited</a>, an 11 episode meditation on privilege, family, religion and sexuality, all set in England between the Wars.</p>
<p>Most people &#8211; even those who haven&#8217;t read the book or seen the series &#8211; use  &#8220;Brideshead&#8221; as shorthand for the flamboyant excesses of the British aristocracy on its last legs. And make no mistake, there&#8217;s no shortage of champagne flutes, dinner jackets and preposterously polite banter. In short, it&#8217;s the kind of thing that <a href="http://www.politicsdaily.com/2010/11/17/another-royal-wedding-bah-humbug/" target="_blank">Americans tend to lap up.</a> (See: <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0066722/" target="_blank">Upstairs, Downstairs</a>, <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0280707/" target="_blank">Gosford Park</a> and most recently, <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1606375/" target="_blank">Downton Abbey</a>.)</p>
<p>The actors are to die for. The series launched Jeremy Irons&#8217; career and also features outstanding performances by Diana Quick, Anthony Andrews, Lawrence Olivier and more. Plus, any film that dwells on extensive bouts of family conflict, alcoholism and unspoken homo-eroticism? <a href="http://realdelia.com/2010/01/tips-for-adulthood-five-indie-films-worth-renting/" target="_blank">I&#8217;m there</a>.</p>
<p>So that was all well and good. But as the series wore on, it became increasingly clear that this wasn&#8217;t just another voyeuristic journey into the heart of Oxbridge-bred England. Rather, it was essentially a protracted tale of one family&#8217;s inexorable, inter-generational and self-destructive struggle with Catholicism.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve written before about my own personal struggles with my family&#8217;s faith. How my husband and I have tried, through the years, to <a href="http://www.politicsdaily.com/2010/03/28/easter-vs-passover-whats-a-catholic-jewish-wannabe-to-do/" target="_blank">reconcile my religious Catholic upbringing with his cultural Jewish identity</a>. And how that has led me to become, begrudgingly, over time, a sort of <a href="http://www.politicsdaily.com/2010/09/20/yom-kippur-the-pope-and-my-reluctant-secularism/" target="_blank">reluctant secularist</a>.</p>
<p>What Brideshead Revisited added to that equation was the pain and guilt that goes along with that decision. I wanted desperately, as I watched, to identify with Charles Ryder, the protagonist of the story. He is the stoic, eternally rational hero who can&#8217;t quite fathom why this otherwise well-educated and cultured family in which he has become enmeshed &#8211; The Flytes &#8211; is so hopelessly caught up in their Roman Catholic faith.</p>
<p>Instead, I ended up identifying with Julia, his beloved, who tries her very best to leave her religion (and thus, to some extent, her family) by embracing Charles (and divorce and modernity) and the skepticism it implies. In the end, however, it&#8217;s too much for her and she can&#8217;t quite bring herself to do it. It breaks her heart, but she chooses the Church over her true love. It is her destiny.</p>
<p>I won&#8217;t do that. I left the church long ago and save a few masses here and there and the <a href="http://realdelia.com/2009/02/fear-of-flying/" target="_blank">occasional compunction to pray on airplanes</a>, I don&#8217;t think I&#8217;ll ever go back to Catholicism. Or any other religion, for that matter.  Even Judaism.</p>
<p>But I experience that as a loss. And it&#8217;s a painful one.</p>
<p>And that&#8217;s why I envy all the atheists I know, who make up about 90% of the people around me, including my husband. They don&#8217;t share this anguish. It doesn&#8217;t keep them awake at night.</p>
<p>I would love to have that peace of mind.</p>
<p>But I don&#8217;t.</p>
<p>And that, my friends, is one price of adulthood. At least mine.</p>
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<p><em>Image: IMG_2994 by Franie Frou Frou via Flickr under a Creative Commons License.</em></p>
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		<title>Why Summer Reading Lists Bum Me Out</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 13 Jun 2011 11:27:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>delialloyd</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve been thinking a lot about reading lately. I suppose it&#8217;s because it&#8217;s that time of the year again. You know, when everyone starts posting their &#8220;Summer Reading Lists&#8221; &#8211; a selection of books that you can and should devour when you have those mythical four weeks of lolly-gagging around the pool/beach/barbecue&#8230;you name it. (Me? [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft" title="get my hands on by mrsexsmith" src="http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1015/528978484_5c2be998dc_m.jpg" alt="" width="160" height="240" />I&#8217;ve been thinking a lot about reading lately.</p>
<p>I suppose it&#8217;s because it&#8217;s that time of the year again. You know, when everyone starts posting their &#8220;<a href="http://www.oprah.com/book-list/Paging-Summer-Tantalizing-Beach-Reads" target="_blank">Summer Reading Lists</a>&#8221; &#8211; a selection of books that you can and should devour when you have those mythical four weeks of lolly-gagging around the pool/beach/barbecue&#8230;you name it.</p>
<p>(Me? I tend to spend my summers lolly-gagging around the <a href="http://www.camden.gov.uk/ccm/content/leisure/sports-and-activities/sports-centres/talacre-community-sports-centre/talacre-community-sports-centre--general-information.en" target="_blank">Talacre Sports  Centre </a>about a half-mile from my home, <a href="http://www.politicsdaily.com/2010/07/22/stress-management-can-i-rent-a-wife/" target="_blank">desperately trying to squeeze in  some work in between lugging my kids to their various camps</a>. But <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M7P2eiTeD5A" target="_blank">I suppose &#8220;there&#8217;s always tomorrow</a>,&#8221; as Annie once said&#8230;.)</p>
<p>If you&#8217;re like me, summer reading lists don&#8217;t inspire excitement or inspiration. They merely inspire dread and a looming sense of failure. And that&#8217;s because they remind me how very many books I wish to read and how very few of those I&#8217;ll ever manage to actually get through.</p>
<p>On my bedside table right now I&#8217;ve got two books open which I&#8217;m mid-way through &#8211; <a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/books/2011/jun/10/tea-obreht-the-tigers-wife-orange-prize" target="_blank">Tea Obreht&#8217;s award-winning The Tiger&#8217;s Wife </a>and Hans Fallada&#8217;s haunting holocaust-era thriller, <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Alone-Berlin-Penguin-Hardback-Classics/dp/184614082X" target="_blank">Alone In Berlin</a>.</p>
<p>Buried underneath them are, in no particular order: Michael Lewis&#8217; <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Blind-Side-Evolution-Game/dp/0393330478" target="_blank">The Blind Side </a>(which is relevant to my <a href="http://realdelia.com/2010/11/why-i-joined-a-writing-group/" target="_blank">own-novel-in-progress</a>), Lorrie Moore&#8217;s <a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/books/2010/apr/11/lorrie-moore-gate-stairs-interview" target="_blank">A Gate At The Stairs</a> (because <a href="http://katykeim.wordpress.com/2009/09/18/lorrie-moore-is-back-a-gate-at-the-stairs-yahoo/" target="_blank">Book Snob Katy Keim recommended it</a>) and Tolstoy&#8217;s <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/War-Peace-Wordsworth-Classics-Tolstoy/dp/1853260622" target="_blank">War and Peace</a>. (Yup, it&#8217;s true.)</p>
<p>(I do give myself credit for <a href="http://realdelia.com/2010/08/tips-for-adulthood-five-things-to-do-on-a-staycation/" target="_blank">finally donating Eternal Message of Muhammed</a> to the library. What can I say? <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2008/01/25/style/25iht-afirst26.1.9495087.html" target="_blank">Old habits die hard</a>.)</p>
<p>If you glance at this list, you may be wondering: Does she really plan to get through all of these books this summer &#8211; let alone in her lifetime?</p>
<p>And therein lies the dilemma of reading. I love to do it and try, most nights, to read before going to bed. (Unless, of course, I&#8217;m watching our box set of <a href="http://www.hbo.com/the-wire/index.html" target="_blank">The Wire</a>.) But it&#8217;s a sisyphean task because no sooner do I knock one book off of my night table, another slides in to take its place. And I&#8217;m left feeling&#8230;behind.</p>
<p>Which is why I was so delighted to happen upon an article on the NPR website by Linda Holmes entitled &#8220;<a href="http://www.npr.org/blogs/monkeysee/2011/04/21/135508305/the-sad-beautiful-fact-that-were-all-going-to-miss-almost-everything?sc=tw&amp;cc=share" target="_blank">The Sad Beautiful Fact That We&#8217;re All Going To Miss Almost Everything</a>.&#8221; Holmes&#8217; basic point is that in today&#8217;s world, there are an infinite amount of good books/movies/artistic treasures to consume. ( I would add that in light of technology, there are also a never-ending barrage of reminders about their existence, as well as how easy it is to access them. (<em>Click here!</em>))</p>
<p>And yet, we can&#8217;t possibly consume everything out there that we&#8217;re told is worthwhile. Which leaves us, according to Holmes &#8211; with two options: to &#8220;cull&#8221;  &#8211; i.e. to self-consciously decide what&#8217;s worth our time and what we should ignore &#8211; or to &#8220;surrender&#8221; &#8211; i.e., to accept that we can&#8217;t possibly make it through all of these great works, but that failing to do so should not threaten our sense that we are &#8216;well read.&#8217;&#8221;</p>
<p>The second option is painful, but oddly liberating. As she writes: &#8220;<em>It is the recognition that well-read is not a destination; there is  nowhere to get to, and if you assume there is somewhere to get to, you&#8217;d  have to live a thousand years to even think about getting there, and by  the time you got there, there would be a thousand years to catch up on.&#8221;</em></p>
<p>Such sage wisdom. Not only for reading, <a href="http://realdelia.com/about/" target="_blank">but for life</a>. <a href="http://realdelia.com/about/" target="_blank"></a></p>
<p>I love this idea. To view reading not as the summit, but as the mountain-climbing itself. And to recognize the sadness &#8211; and also the relief &#8211; embedded in that journey.</p>
<p>Whew! I feel better already.</p>
<p>Which reminds me &#8211; I really need to get my summer reading list out&#8230;</p>
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		<title>Tips For Adulthood: Why &#8216;To The End Of The Land&#8217; Is For Grown Ups</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Every Wednesday I offer tips for adulthood. Every so often on this blog, I point you towards books or movies that I think constitute essential reads/views for grown ups. I did it most recently with Muriel Barbery&#8217;s fabulous The Elegance Of The Hedgehog which was &#8211; to my mind, at least &#8211; all about adulthood. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft" title="Israel - The Negev by Stella's Mom" src="http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3037/2808660405_196d3db417_m.jpg" alt="" width="240" height="180" />Every Wednesday I offer tips for adulthood.</p>
<p>Every so often on this blog, I point you towards books or movies that I think constitute essential reads/views for grown ups. I did it most recently with <a href="http://realdelia.com/2010/03/tips-for-adulthood-five-reasons-the-elegance-of-the-hedgehog-is-for-grown-ups/" target="_blank">Muriel Barbery&#8217;s fabulous The Elegance Of The Hedgehog</a> which was &#8211; to my mind, at least &#8211; all about adulthood.</p>
<p>This week I&#8217;m going to do it again with David Grossman&#8217;s beautifully raw novel, <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/End-Land-David-Grossman/dp/0224089994" target="_blank">To The End Of The Land</a>. This is, quite possibly, the saddest book I&#8217;ve ever read.</p>
<p>It recounts one woman&#8217;s walk across Israel  while her 18 year-old son is called up for a 28-day military exercise. She sets off on this walk &#8211; which runs the span of the entire novel &#8211; because she doesn&#8217;t want to be home if and when the authorities try to find her should her son die in combat.</p>
<p>On the jacket cover, the novelist Nicole Krauss (<a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/History-Love-Nicole-Krauss/dp/0141019972" target="_blank">The History of Love</a>)  writes: &#8220;Very rarely you open a book and when you close it again nothing  can ever be the same.&#8221;</p>
<p>Krauss nails it, in my opinion, and I can&#8217;t  recommend this book enough, especially for those of you who &#8211; like me -  <a href="../2009/03/how-to-grieve-write-about-it/" target="_blank">share a fondness for sad books</a>.</p>
<p>Here are five reasons I think everyone should read this book:</p>
<p>a. <em>It&#8217;s About Motherhood</em>. This is first and foremost a book about being a parent &#8211; and perhaps even more specifically &#8211; being a  mother.  In the wake of the recent Oscars ceremony, much has been made of Natalie Portman&#8217;s famous throwaway line in which she thanked her fiance for giving her the &#8220;most important role&#8221; of her life — motherhood. Some writers, like Salon&#8217;s Mary Elizabeth Williams, worried aloud that <a href="http://www.salon.com/entertainment/tv/feature/2011/02/28/natalie_portman_most_important_role" target="_blank">Portman was doing women a disservice by trumpeting babies over career</a>.  Others &#8211; notably my Politics Daily colleague Joanne Bamberger &#8211; <a href="http://www.politicsdaily.com/2011/02/28/natalie-portmans-motherhood-shout-out-gets-raves-from-this-femi/" target="_blank">endorsed Portman&#8217;s take on the dual roles many women confront</a>. As Joanne writes, &#8220;On some level being a mother <em>is</em> the greatest role of my life &#8212; not superior to others, just the greatest in terms of challenges and rewards.&#8221; If you&#8217;re feeling caught between these two feminist reads of the Portman moment, then read Grossman&#8217;s book. It reveals the fierce, all-consuming, painful and even  ambivalent nature of a mother&#8217;s love in perhaps the most honest way I&#8217;ve  ever seen.</p>
<p>b. <em>It&#8217;s about parenting a teen</em>. I wrote recently about <a href="http://realdelia.com/2011/02/tips-for-adulthood-five-facts-about-teenagers/" target="_blank">the challenges of parenting teen-agers</a> in light of new data we have about them. Boy, does this book drive that home. Grossman renders beautifully the delicate mixture of vulnerability and independence that characterizes teen-agers (in this case, boys) in a way that will resonate and, again, cut you to the quick.</p>
<p>c. <em>It&#8217;s about what might have been</em>. I once wrote <a href="http://realdelia.com/2009/05/the-road-not-taken-what-i-learned-from-watching-mamma-mia/" target="_blank">a post about the &#8220;road not taken&#8221; </a>in which I examined wistfulness as a leit motif of adulthood. My basic point was that whether it&#8217;s who you marry or what career you choose or where you live, part of being a grown up is being plagued by what might have been. Because To The End of the Land centers around a relationship between two ex lovers who&#8217;ve gone their separate ways (as a result of war) and then reunite in a literal journey of self-discovery, it plays out the whole &#8220;road not taken&#8221; concept in real time. Wow.</p>
<p>d. <em>It&#8217;s about patriotism</em>. <a href="http://realdelia.com/2010/07/patriotism-in-adulthood-should-we-all-be-waving-the-flag/" target="_blank">I&#8217;m not a terribly patriotic individual</a>. It&#8217;s not that I have a great deal of antipathy for the mother ship, I&#8217;m just not all that inclined to wave a flag or jump on a Fourth of July parade float. But if you live in Israel, you have no choice but to be patriotic. Patriotism is woven into the very fiber of the country, even for those (like the protagonist in this book) who are ambivalent about where they want their country headed. Grappling with one&#8217;s patriotism isn&#8217;t something you deal with as a child. But it is something which &#8211; explicitly or implicitly &#8211; everyone must come to terms with as a grown up.</p>
<p>e. <em>It&#8217;s about Israel</em>. This is also a book about Israel and the unbelievably  complicated  feelings it arouses in its citizens. One of the things I liked most about the book is that no one emerges as a  winner in the  seemingly eternal and intractable Israeli-Palestinian conflict that has dominated (until  quite recently) our coverage of the Middle East: not the Israelis, not  the Arabs, not foreign powers like the U.S. who figure largely there. However you feel about the Israeli-Palestinian crisis, there is no   question that resolving it is central to a lasting peace in the Middle  East, even with all of the other things going on in the region right  now. That is an enduring reality of our collective adulthood.</p>
<p><em>Image; Israel &#8211; The Negev by Stella&#8217;s Mom via Flickr under a Creative Commons License</em></p>
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		<title>Huck Finn, Censorship And The N-Word Controversy</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 07 Jan 2011 09:26:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[My ten year-old came home from school the other day with an assignment from his teacher: to write an original story based around the concept of a &#8220;ship wreck.&#8221; He promptly sat down at the dinner table and began composing his opus. It was the story of a &#8220;tan skinned&#8221; pirate of Somali origin who [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft" title="Huck Finn by CaZaTo Ma" src="http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3542/3773306608_e6cf95e94d_m.jpg" alt="" width="240" height="150" />My ten year-old came home from school the other day with an assignment from his teacher: to write an original story based around the concept of a &#8220;ship wreck.&#8221;</p>
<p>He promptly sat down at the dinner table and began composing his opus. It was the story of a &#8220;tan skinned&#8221; pirate of Somali origin who hijacks a boat with an AK-47. In broken English, the pirate threatens all the passengers on the ship with his weapon. Then they die.</p>
<p>When my son showed me his essay afterwards, I was mortified. &#8220;You can&#8217;t write this!&#8221; I exclaimed. &#8220;You sound like a racist!&#8221; I then forced him to expurgate the most offensive passages from his text, including the color of the pirate&#8217;s skin and the derogatory description of his accent.</p>
<p>But when I recounted this story to an English friend of mine, she just shook her head. &#8220;Oh you Americans!&#8221; she said, laughing. &#8220;You&#8217;re so hung up on political correctness! An English teacher would neither notice nor care about any of this. Lighten up!&#8221;</p>
<p>I was reminded of this vignette earlier this week when I read that a new edition of Mark Twain&#8217;s classic novel<em> The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn</em> is coming out in February. In the new version, all instances of the N-word &#8211; which appears more than 200 times in the book &#8211; are to be expunged. In its place, the book will employ the term &#8220;slave.&#8221; (&#8220;Injun&#8221; &#8211; a derogatory term for Native Americans &#8211; will also be replaced by &#8220;Indian.&#8221;)</p>
<p>Read the rest of this story at <a href="http://www.politicsdaily.com/2011/01/06/huck-finn-censorship-and-the-n-word-controversy/" target="_blank">www.PoliticsDaily.com</a>&#8230;</p>
<p><em>Image: Huck Finn by CaZaTo Ma via Flickr under a Creative Commons license.</em></p>
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		<title>Tips For Adulthood: Five &quot;Comfort Activities&quot; When You&#039;re Sick</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 15 Dec 2010 09:13:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Every Wednesday I offer tips for adulthood. I spent most of last week in bed, shaking off a flu. I really fight against being ill. On some fundamental level, I don&#8217;t want to accept that my defenses are down and that I can&#8217;t accomplish what I normally do in a day. So I spend a [...]]]></description>
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<p>I spent most of last week in bed, shaking off a flu.</p>
<p>I really fight against being ill. On some fundamental level, I don&#8217;t want to accept that my defenses are down and that I can&#8217;t accomplish what I normally do in a day. So I spend a lot of time feeling frustrated when I&#8217;m sick, which is, of course, not only pointless but counter-productive.</p>
<p>But then I read this great post over on <a href="http://dailyplateofcrazy.com/2010/12/12/bags-mags-and-shags-give-yourself-a-break/" target="_blank">Daily Plate of Crazy</a> about how Big Little Wolf woke up one day feeling really lousy and decided that even though it meant tossing out her &#8220;interminable checklist,&#8221; she accepted that she was ill and had a really nice day in, reading magazines and watching chick flicks.</p>
<p>And that made me realize that if you re-frame it, being sick can actually be a nice excuse to relax and engage &#8220;comfort activities&#8221; that you might not allow yourself during your normal routine. And I vowed that the next time I&#8217;m ill, I&#8217;m going to approach it with a whole new outlook. Here are five things to do when you&#8217;re sick:</p>
<p>1. <em>Play Board Games</em>. I&#8217;m a <a href="http://realdelia.com/2009/12/16/tips-for-adulthood-five-board-games-still-worth-playing/" target="_blank">huge fan of board games</a>. And, once again this year, I have used Hanukkah as an excuse to replenish our supply. (This year&#8217;s additions include Backgammon, <a href="http://www.hasbro.com/risk/" target="_blank">Risk </a>and <a href="http://www.hasbro.com/games/en_US/battleship/" target="_blank">Battleship</a>.) The drawback (and advantage) of board games like these is that they can take several hours to play. And so you really need to clear an entire afternoon or evening, which can be tough to manage during &#8220;normal times.&#8221; But when you&#8217;re sick, you&#8217;ve got nothing better to do. So assuming you can actually sit up, playing a board game is an excellent way to spend a sick day.</p>
<p>2. <em>Watch Old Movies</em>. I&#8217;m not sure why, exactly, but watching old movies is another great comfort activity when you&#8217;re not feeling your best. In theory, any film should do, right? But there&#8217;s something particularly soothing about old movies. My daughter&#8217;s school is performing <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0063385/" target="_blank"><em>Oliver!</em></a> for the Christmas play this year so we happened to have a copy of the film lying around last weekend. And so all four of us snuggled up in our bed and watched<em> Oliver!</em> as a family. Lovely.</p>
<p>3. <em>Drink Tea</em>. I don&#8217;t drink much tea these days. I&#8217;m more of <a href="http://realdelia.com/2010/06/02/tips-for-adulthood-five-ways-to-live-frugally/" target="_blank">an espresso-brewing gal</a>. But when I&#8217;m sick, I take a hiatus from coffee and drink only tea. And I *always* enjoy that. There&#8217;s nothing that screams relaxation quite as much as a large mug of tea. Preferably with sugar and milk. Yum.</p>
<p>4.<em>Take a nap</em>. This has got to be the classic comfort activity that I routinely deny myself during my &#8220;normal life.&#8221; Despite all the research showing that taking a 30 minute <a href="http://blogs.hbr.org/schwartz/2010/09/why-companies-should-insist-th.html" target="_blank">nap every afternoon is really conducive to productivity</a>, I never, ever nap unless I&#8217;m feeling ill. But when I&#8217;m sick, I allow myself this luxury and boy, is it worth it every time.</p>
<p>5. <em>Read a guilty pleasure</em>. This will vary from person to person. I don&#8217;t read women&#8217;s magazines so that&#8217;s never going to be a comfort activity for me. But I did find my eye straying to the pile of &#8220;to be read&#8221; books by my bedside table &#8211; you know, the ones that you really want to read but always feel you *should* be reading something else? So after, like, I don&#8217;t know&#8230;8 years?, I finally picked up <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Liars-Poker-Rising-Through-Wreckage/dp/0140143459" target="_blank">Michael Lewis&#8217; Liar&#8217;s Poker</a> and plunged in. Just like that. So glad I did.</p>
<p>OK, so you know where I&#8217;m going with this, right? If these things are all so fantastic, then why don&#8217;t I incorporate them into my regular routine?</p>
<p>I&#8217;m working on it, folks. Really I am.</p>
<p>*****</p>
<p>For those who are interested, here&#8217;s my latest piece in Politics Daily on the <a href="http://www.politicsdaily.com/2010/12/13/celebrities-call-on-iran-to-free-ashtiani-who-faces-death-by-st/" target="_blank">woman in Iran sentenced to death by stoning</a>.</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Every Wednesday I offer tips for adulthood. Sometimes it&#8217;s the off-hand comment that really gets you thinking. So there I was in the playground yesterday, about to pick my daughter up from school, when I started talking to a friend who was also waiting for her son. We were midway into a vague, &#8220;How&#8217;s it [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft" title="Eat On The Run by Brave Heart" src="http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4113/5020958462_875a51c143_m.jpg" alt="" width="180" height="240" />Every Wednesday I offer tips for adulthood.</p>
<p>Sometimes it&#8217;s the off-hand comment that really gets you thinking.</p>
<p>So there I was in the playground yesterday, about to pick my daughter up from school, when I started talking to a friend who was also waiting for her son. We were midway into a vague, &#8220;How&#8217;s it goin&#8217;?&#8221; sort of chat, when she suddenly commented, seemingly out of nowhere: &#8220;You seem so busy. Do you ever eat lunch?&#8221;</p>
<p>I laughed, reassuring her that I did, even while suppressing the memory of stuffing a peanut butter and jelly sandwich into my mouth but two hours earlier as I galloped up a hill towards a bi-monthly appointment with my life coach (whom I see to help me&#8230;relax.)</p>
<p>But it gets better. As we talked some more about my work schedule, my double-school-run-afternoons and my husband&#8217;s recent business travel, she asked &#8211; in all seriousness &#8211; &#8220;Do you ever watch TV?&#8221;</p>
<p>She meant it in the nicest way, of course. She&#8217;s a really nice person. But, still, it cut me like a knife.</p>
<p>I mean: <em>Do I ever watch TV?</em> Am I so busy that the image I now project is that of a pop-culture-bereft, ready-meal-popping freak show who zips around North London on her <a href="http://realdelia.com/2010/08/04/tips-for-adulthood-five-things-to-do-on-a-staycation/" target="_blank">collapsible bicycle</a> desperately trying to keep up with her life? (Don&#8217;t answer that question. And by the way, does falling asleep to the Director&#8217;s Cut of <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0414387/" target="_blank">Pride and Prejudice</a> count as &#8220;watching TV&#8221;?)</p>
<p>So I gave it some thought. And I realized that I have been working too hard lately and trying to do too much. And I really need to relax. Here are five other tell-tale signs that you need to take a break:</p>
<p>1. <em>Strangers tell you that you look rushed</em>. It&#8217;s one thing when a friend tells you that you seem over-worked. But when even a stranger expresses concern that you&#8217;re too busy, it&#8217;s really time to take note. I was in the pharmacy the other day &#8211; where, because of the multitude of medical problems afflicting my family &#8211; the pharmacists are basically my extended family. Again, seemingly out of nowhere, the owner of the shop stepped forward and observed: &#8220;You always seem to be in a rush.&#8221; (&#8220;<em>Why do you say that?</em>&#8221; I wanted to reply. &#8220;<em>Because I just knocked 42 of your contact lens solutions on the floor when I whooshed in here to grab my prescription while &#8211; literally &#8211; jogging?&#8221;) </em>Once again, she meant it in the nicest way. This lady brings the descriptor &#8220;kindly&#8221; to a whole new level. And that made her remark all the more telling.</p>
<p>2. <em>Muscle pain migrates to new corners of your body</em>. Remember my <a href="http://realdelia.com/2009/04/23/piriformis-syndrome-a-real-pain-in-the-ass/" target="_blank">piriformis syndrome</a>? Thought I had that licked, didn&#8217;t you? Nope. It&#8217;s back. Only it has inexplicably migrated to the left side of my body. As soon as the pain started about six weeks ago, I recognized the symptoms instantly. And for a while, I ignored it. (Even though <a href="http://realdelia.com/2010/03/24/tips-for-adulthood-five-reasons-to-confront-pain/" target="_blank">you should never ignore pain</a>. You heard it here first.) But you know it&#8217;s time to cut back on what you&#8217;re doing when your body is basically screaming: &#8220;<em>Hey! Pay Attention to Me!&#8221;</em></p>
<p>3. <em>You feel relieved when you *have* to read your favorite magazine</em>. I love <em>The New Yorker</em>. But despite my <a href="http://realdelia.com/2010/01/04/celebrating-the-sabbath-making-saturdays-me-time/" target="_blank">Sabbath Saturday resolve to devote more time to reading this magazine</a>, I&#8217;ve fallen off the wagon. There are three &#8211; quite possibly, four &#8211; issues sitting in my magazine rack as we speak. One day last week, I found myself waiting for one of my kids for an hour with nothing to do but read my <em>New Yorker</em>. And I felt&#8230;relieved. As in: &#8220;<em>Thank goodness this hour presented itself miraculously in my life</em>!&#8221; Not as in: &#8220;<em>Gee, I love the New Yorker and I think I&#8217;ll spend an hour reading it this afternoon because I want to.</em>&#8221; What&#8217;s wrong with this picture?</p>
<p>4. <em>You mistake tragedy for comedy</em>. <a href="http://realdelia.com/2010/01/06/tips-for-adulthood-five-indie-films-worth-renting/" target="_blank">I love Indie films</a>. The <a href="http://realdelia.com/2009/07/13/changes-to-the-oscars-have-we-lost-that-feelbad-feeling/" target="_blank">bleaker, the better</a>. So when I recommended <a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1399683/" target="_blank">Winter&#8217;s Bone </a> to some friends recently, I was puzzled when one of them, while passing me on the school run, shouted out: &#8220;Hey, thanks for the movie recommendation. We had a lovely evening. But it was a bit&#8230;grim, no?&#8221; To which I responded: &#8220;Grim? Really? I found it kind of uplifting.&#8221; When I recounted this exchange to my husband later that evening, he looked at me as if I were smoking crack. Like me, he also loved the movie. But &#8220;uplifting&#8221;? To paraphrase his reaction, when you mix poverty, drugs, murder and rural American sub-cultures, that&#8217;s not generally characterized as &#8220;uplifting.&#8221; Just sayin&#8217;.</p>
<p>5. <em>You read Nora Ephron</em>. I like my books much like I prefer my movies: heavy and (often) dark. (For me, the <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/s/?ie=UTF8&amp;keywords=girl+with+dragon+tattoo+book&amp;tag=googhydr-21&amp;index=aps&amp;hvadid=6580218665&amp;ref=pd_sl_8n8bb9f96s_b" target="_blank">Dragon Tattoo series</a> constitutes &#8220;light.&#8221;) So when my book club chose <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Heartburn-Nora-Ephron/dp/1844085171/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1286283805&amp;sr=1-1" target="_blank">Nora Ephron&#8217;s Heartburn </a>as its selection this month, I was initially disappointed. Not my cuppa, as they say. Boy, was I wrong. It&#8217;s not a great novel by any stretch. In fact, it&#8217;s not so much a novel as an extended rant by Ephron against her ex-husband for cheating on her when she was seven months pregnant. (And who can blame her?) But, man is Ephron funny. She has a terrific voice. And sometimes, we all just need to laugh.</p>
<p>Fortunately, I will have a chance to take a break later this month when I travel with my family &#8211; and my mother &#8211; to Berlin, one of those European cities I&#8217;ve always wanted to visit. Let&#8217;s just hope that <a href="http://www.politicsdaily.com/2010/10/02/terrorist-plots-darken-europes-immigration-debate/" target="_blank">whole terrorist threat thing</a> has lifted by then. Speaking of grim&#8230;</p>
<p>*****</p>
<p>I was very grateful for this<a href="http://freakonomics.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/10/05/stumbling-toward-a-market-for-health-care-in-the-u-k/" target="_blank"> shout-out on the New York Times Freakonomics blog</a> for my recent piece on health care reform in the U.K.</p>
<p><em>Image: Eat On The Run by Brave Heart via Flickr under a Creative Commons license.</em></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Every Wednesday I offer tips for adulthood. My family is doing a staycation this year. We&#8217;re taking a few local trips here and there. But mostly &#8211; due to assorted work deadlines and exhaustion from our recent move &#8211; we&#8217;ll be at home in London. Apparently, we&#8217;re not alone. Here in the U.K., a combination [...]]]></description>
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<p>My family is doing a staycation this year. We&#8217;re taking a few local trips here and there. But mostly &#8211; due to assorted work deadlines and exhaustion from our recent move &#8211; we&#8217;ll be at home in London.</p>
<p>Apparently, we&#8217;re not alone. Here in the U.K., a combination of airline strikes and the Eurozone debt crisis have prompted many <a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/business/2010/aug/01/uk-holidays-staycation" target="_blank">more British people to holiday at home this year</a>. In the United States, the whole concept of staycation (a word now enshrined in the <a href="http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/staycation" target="_blank">Merriam-Webster&#8217;s Collegiate Dictionary</a>) has shifted from being a <a href="http://aboutourism.wordpress.com/2010/05/27/staycations-much-more-than-a-trend/" target="_blank">temporary outgrowth of the financial crisis to a social phenomenon that&#8217;s here to stay</a>.</p>
<p>I love London, so I don&#8217;t really mind being here in the summer. Still, the longer days, warmer weather, and changes to the kids&#8217; schedules do inspire me to do things a bit differently, if for no other reason than to shake up my own routine.</p>
<p>So if, like me, this is a summer when you&#8217;re going to give traveling a pass, here are some ways to mark the occasion:</p>
<p>1. <em>Discover a new place</em>. One way to make a staycation feel special is to travel somewhere new near your home. This might be a new museum, a restaurant you&#8217;ve been meaning to try or that park that&#8217;s just a bit too far to visit during the school year. At the top of my list is to take a backstage tour of the <a href="http://www.londontheatredirect.com/venue/11/Theatre-Royal-Drury-Lane.aspx" target="_blank">Theatre Royal Drury Lane</a>, London&#8217;s oldest theatre. On their tours, a group of actors <a href="http://www.londontheatre.co.uk/lashmars/backstagetour/index.html" target="_blank">perform key events from this theatre&#8217;s rich history</a> while you look around. I may even (gasp) do this on my own, since I don&#8217;t think any of my friends or family members quite shares <a href="http://realdelia.com/2009/07/02/hobbies-in-adulthood-west-end-here-i-come/" target="_blank">my thespian enthusiasm</a>. (Adulthood fantasy #6 is where I manage a community theatre troupe in which I also make the occasional cameo. Hey, we all need to dream&#8230;)</p>
<p>2. <em>Get a new toy</em>. Usually, we associate the novelty of a new toy with children. But it&#8217;s equally valid for adults, who also <a href="http://www.sixwise.com/newsletters/06/10/18/the-crucial-health-value-of-play--for-kids-and-adults.htm" target="_blank">need to play</a>. This year, my summer treat to myself is a bicycle. Because our new house is located <a href="http://realdelia.com/2010/05/12/tips-for-adulthood-five-ways-to-stay-fit/" target="_blank">considerably further from the kids&#8217; schools</a> and assorted other activities, I find that I&#8217;m often in motion between the hours of three and five on any given afternoon. And so we finally broke down and bought a bike for me on Ebay. It&#8217;s one of those funky collapsible things &#8211; (a <a href="http://www.brompton.co.uk/" target="_blank">Brompton</a>, for those in the know) &#8211; because I&#8217;ll need to take it on the Tube and the bus with the kids. Bonus? I feel terribly hip and urban. Bonus-by-association? <a href="http://realdelia.com/2009/03/25/5-household-items-you-can-do-without/" target="_blank">Guess who&#8217;s got a handy new gadget to play with</a>?</p>
<p>3. <em>Learn a new skill</em>. &#8220;It&#8217;s like riding a bike.&#8221; The only problem with that old chestnut is that it only means something if you actually *know* how to ride a bike. In light of our staycation, my husband and I took the command decision that this was an opportune time to teach my nine year-old how to ride a bike. (I know, I know. Ridiculously late to be teaching him this life skill, especially since his six year-old sis has been bike riding for more than a year. What can I say? We&#8217;re bad parents.) But we&#8217;re on it now, and &#8211; in light of #2 &#8211; it also means that we can now go for family bike rides.</p>
<p>4. <em>Tackle something on your &#8220;dreaded&#8221; to-do list</em>. I once wrote a post entitled &#8220;<a href="http://realdelia.com/2009/11/25/tips-for-adulthood-five-ways-to-get-on-top-of-your-to-do-list/" target="_blank">Five Ways To Get On Top Of Your To Do List</a>.&#8221; One of the strategies I recommended was to divide your to-do list in half into long-term and short-term items. The idea was to tick something off of the short list every day, and to take a step towards removing something on the long list every week. I think this strategy works very well. But it does pre-suppose that every so often, you really do take that crucial step on the dreaded (long) to-do list. In my case, I&#8217;ve had &#8220;clean rugs&#8221; on there for &#8211; oh, you really don&#8217;t want to know how long. But darn it if I didn&#8217;t pluck up my courage yesterday and call around for some estimates. (Needless to say &#8211; and like most of the &#8220;dreaded&#8221; tasks &#8211; contemplation was much worse than execution.) And now I feel so much better as a result. Up next? Wash duvet cover&#8230;</p>
<p>5. <em>Read some really long books</em>. Let&#8217;s face it. We all have a list of books on our bedside table which &#8211; tempting as they might seem &#8211; we never get around to reading because they&#8217;re just too long. And I don&#8217;t mean the medicinal ones that you feel you *ought* to read so that you&#8217;re up to speed on such and such a topic. (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Eternal-Message-Muhammad-Islamic-Society/dp/0946621489" target="_blank">Eternal Message of Muhammed</a> anyone? Oh, is that just me?) No, I mean the really good ones that entail a level of commitment that&#8217;s just beyond your comfort level during a busy week. I just finished the third volume in the highly addictive <em>Dragon Tattoo</em> series &#8211; <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Girl-Who-Kicked-Hornets-Nest/dp/1906694168" target="_blank">The Girl Who Kicked The Hornets Nest</a>. Now I&#8217;m on to Hilary Mantel&#8217;s Booker Prize-winning <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Wolf-Hall-Hilary-Mantel/dp/0007230184" target="_blank">Wolf Hall</a>. Up next? <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Cloud-Atlas-David-Mitchell/dp/0340822775" target="_blank">Cloud Atlas</a> by David Mitchell. If time, there&#8217;s always Tolstoy&#8217;s <a href="http://www.amazon.co.uk/Peace-Wordsworth-Classics-L-N-Tolstoy/dp/1853260622" target="_blank">War and Peace</a>. No, seriously. Don&#8217;t laugh.</p>
<p>What are you doing this summer around home?</p>
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<p>For those who are interested, I&#8217;m over on Politics Daily today talking about a lawsuit against the British government on the grounds of<a href="http://www.politicsdaily.com/2010/08/03/british-budget-discriminates-against-women-lawsuit-claims/" target="_blank"> gender discrimination in its new austerity budget</a>.</p>
<p><em>Image: Very early Brompton (number 333) by marcus_jb1973 via Flickr under a Creative Commons license.</em></p>
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		<title>Five Reasons Not To Get An E-Reader</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[For my mother&#8217;s 79th birthday later this month, her four children are going to give her an e-reader. We have yet to decide which one to give her, but she&#8217;s very keen to join this trend. As a frequent traveler, and avid reader, she finds that she&#8217;s always lugging 12 hard-cover books wherever she goes [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft" title="23/365 plus 1 [eReader]" src="http://farm5.static.flickr.com/4043/4313467968_235f7ab0d6_m.jpg" alt="" width="180" height="240" />For my mother&#8217;s 79th birthday later this month, her four children are  going to give her an e-reader. We have yet to decide which one to give  her, but she&#8217;s very keen to join this trend.</p>
<p>As a frequent traveler, and  avid reader, she finds that she&#8217;s always lugging 12 hard-cover books  wherever she goes (often London to visit me!). So she&#8217;d like to lighten  her load. Apparently, several of her friends already have e-readers and  they are all thrilled with them.</p>
<p>I have mixed feelings about this present. On the one hand, as someone  who &#8212; by her own admission &#8212; barely has running water and electricity,  my mother is not exactly what you&#8217;d call techno-savvy. So there is a  dragging-her-into-the-21st century quality to this gift, which, as  someone who spends all day online, I welcome with open arms.</p>
<p>On the other hand, I&#8217;m also wary of  the onslaught of e-readers. I worry about what happens to our society  when we no longer read those great artifacts of the 20th century: books.</p>
<p>Read the rest of this post at <a href="http://www.politicsdaily.com/2010/06/12/e-readers-are-rock-stars-but-my-heart-belongs-to-hardcovers/" target="_blank">www.PoliticsDaily.com</a>&#8230;</p>
<p><em>Image: 23/365 plus 1 [eReader] by The Hamster Factor  via flickr under a Creative Commons license.</em></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[I walked into my local public library in London the other day and got a rude shock. All of my favorite librarians were gone. They&#8217;d been replaced by machines. Where the circulation desk once stood &#8212; manned by a friendly soul with whom I&#8217;d chat about politics or the weather or the latest London Review [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft" title="NYC-Midtown: New York Public Library Main Building" src="http://farm1.static.flickr.com/45/152453593_9262d2ea7a_m.jpg" alt="" width="240" height="160" />I walked into my local public library in London the other day and got a  rude shock. All of my favorite librarians were gone. They&#8217;d been  replaced by machines. Where the circulation desk once stood &#8212; manned by  a friendly soul with whom I&#8217;d chat about politics or the weather or the  latest <a href="http://www.lrb.co.uk/" target="_blank">London Review of  Books</a> &#8212; I now swiped my library card and pushed a button that said  &#8220;borrow&#8221; or &#8220;return.&#8221;</p>
<p>They&#8217;d also done some remodeling. This particular branch sits in an  elegant 1930s building located in the garden of the house where the poet  John Keats wrote his &#8220;<a href="http://englishhistory.net/keats/poetry/odetoanightingale.html" target="_blank">Ode  to a Nightingale</a>.&#8221; The main room &#8212; once cluttered with books that  literally spilled onto the floor &#8212; now is a shadow of its former self.  Rather than books, the main thing on display would appear to be tables  &#8212; artfully dotted around the room as if this were a café or the  premier-class lounge for an airline. (&#8220;It&#8217;s so bright even druggies  wouldn&#8217;t inject here,&#8221; quipped a cynical online reviewer.)</p>
<p>And it&#8217;s not just in the United  Kingdom where libraries are morphing into something else . . . if not  dying out completely. I&#8217;ve seen numerous articles about the demise of  them in the United States, whether it&#8217;s the <a href="http://www.boston.com/news/local/massachusetts/articles/2010/03/10/the_passions_run_high_as_libraries_fate_debated/" target="_blank">closure  of branches in Boston,</a> <a href="http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/lanow/2010/03/budget-woes-force-la-libraries-to-close-on-sundays-cut-hours-on-weekdays.html" target="_blank">reduced  hours in Los Angeles</a>, or the architectural makeovers that render <a href="http://www.salon.com/books/feature/2010/03/16/martha_nichols_public_libraries/index.html" target="_blank">library  books merely decorative</a>, as in Cambridge, Massachusetts.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.politicsdaily.com/2010/06/05/the-death-of-the-library-read-it-and-weep/" target="_blank">Read the rest of this article</a> at www.PoliticsDaily.com&#8230;</p>
<p><em>Image: NYC-Midtown: New York Public Library Main Building via Flickr under a Creative Commons License.</em></p>
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