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Tips For Adulthood: Five Things Psychotherapists Shouldn't Do

Every Wednesday I offer tips for adulthood.

Daphne Merkin’s recent essay in The New York Times Magazine about her lifelong search for the perfect psycho-therapist has generated quite a bit of buzz.

As I noted last week, when I first read Merkin’s piece, I was fairly sure that it would serve as another great example of the age-old aphorism “there are two types of people in the world…”. On the one hand, I knew that some people would be turned off by this five-page, detailed meditation on Merkin’s ongoing relationship to psychotherapy, using it as confirmation that psychotherapy really is just an extended exercise in (pointless) narcissism. On the other hand, I also imagined that there would be people (like me) who — while acknowledging the self-indulgent nature of therapy — find both the process and analysis…of analysis…endlessly fascinating. Which is another way of saying that I couldn’t put the article down.

Those predictions turned out to be right, as a quick scan of the Letters To The Editor on that post in The New York Times will attest.

But while I’m generally in the supportive camp on therapy-as-life-strategy, I think it’s worth looking at the critiques that are emerging from the article about psychotherapy more generally. They seem to come in three varieties.

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Friday Pix: Recommended Reading For The Weekend

Every Friday I refer you to some recommended reading around the blogosphere. This week, lots to laugh about:

1. Ok, I’ve now heard two women in one week defend why women of all ages should be wearing thongs. Here’s Heather Cori’s take over on Literary Mama. Could *totally* relate…

2. Via my favorite book critic, Katy Keim, I came across this very amusing description by Stephen Elliot in The New York Times of the DIY book tour.

3. I also loved this send-up by Eliezer Sobel in The Huffington Post about how hard it is to find a good shrink.

4. As someone eternally fascinated by how writers structure their days, I really liked this article in the Wall Street Journal about Joyce Carol Oates, who – after 50 years of writing – is still going strong. (Hat tip: another amazing new blog I’ve happened upon, Kristen Bair O’Keeffe: My Beautiful, Far-flung Life, which talks about O’Keeffe’s life teaching, writing and parenting in Shanghai.)

5. For those of you interested in understanding the relationship side of adulthood, I recommend Hannah Seligson’s take in The Daily Beast on why people under 40 are waiting longer to get married, based on her new book A Little Bit Married: How to Know When It’s Time To Walk Down the Aisle or Out The Door.

6. Finally, however you feel about the outcome of Tuesday’s special election in Massachusetts, here’s an absolutely hysterical rendering of it by Brian McGrory in The Boston Globe.

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