The Kindness of Strangers

empty walletEditor’s note:  I lost my keys last week. I went back to all the places I could remember having frequented before I’d noticed they were gone. And then I gave up and had a new pair made. This week, I got an email from my local library. Apparently, someone had found the keys on a street in an adjacent neighborhood, and turned them in because my library card was attached to the chain. I couldn’t believe my good fortune. But mostly, I was reminded—once again—of the kindness of strangers. Here’s a post I wrote about this very thing eleven years ago…If you’ve ever been touched by the deed of a good Samaritan, tell us about it in the comments section…


I was struck by an article in The Guardian last week about lost wallets.

The article reported on a recent study in which a company dropped 20 wallets containing £10 in cash, a photograph, tickets, receipts, stamps and several business cards around five British cities. Only two in ten of the wallets were returned to their owners. And of those, only around half (55%) contained the original sum of money.

The study caught my eye because I was recently one of those lucky 20%. I didn’t exactly lose my wallet, but I did lose an envelope containing 15 pounds (roughly twenty-three dollars). And here’s the kicker:  the envelope didn’t have my name and address on it.

All it had was a hand-scribbled note that I’d written to a woman—we’ll call her Kelly—from whom I was buying a used (British) Dustbuster before she moved back to America the next day. The note read something along the lines of “To Kelly from Delia. Thanks and Good luck!,” with the cash stuffed inside.

While walking to her house to pick up the Dustbuster, I’d apparently dropped the envelope along a busy London street. When I got to her house and couldn’t find the envelope, I went to a bank machine to get some cash to pay her for the Dustbuster. I assumed the money was gone for good.

But the next day, a stranger contacted me (and Kelly) by email to say that she’d found the envelope. Because she knew that Kelly was moving (and vaguely knew that Kelly knew someone called Delia), she figured that it was us. Can you believe it? I mean, what are the chances that this woman would:

a. See the envelope on that heavily trafficked street;

b. Bother to read my chicken-scratch and

c. Return it on a hunch?

Bear in mind that I’d never met her and barely knew Kelly.  I love this story because it illustrates the humanity in all of us. (OK, in two-fifths of us.) If you’re into this sort of thing, you must listen to the This American Life episode entitled The Kindness of Strangers. Or, if you live in the UK, have a listen the weekly Thank You segment on BBC Radio 4’s Saturday Live.

It’s also a great small-world story. Sometimes I really do believe the whole Six Degrees of Separation thing. (Even if I’m not connected to Kevin Bacon. Sniff.) A friend of mine just posted on Facebook that her son,  who’s about to go off to college, will be living right down the hall from his best friend from Kindergarten, whom he hasn’t seen in 13 years. Again, what are the odds?

OK, so now it’s your turn to dish. What’s your best kindness of strangers and/or small world story?

Let er’ rip…

Image: Photo by Emil Kalibradov on Unsplash

  • Reply Ute

    August 23, 2010, 6:38 pm

    When young and living in Germany my wallet with important documents and about 200 DM in it got stolen in a supermarket while I was shopping for groceries. A few weeks later the Post Office from Wetzlar, I lived in Giessen, called me and told me to come and get my wallet, which had been found in a postal collection box in Wetzlar. The money was gone, but I got my documents including identification card back. At that time I was glad that I got at least the identification paper back, now I wonder why the person chose Wetzlar where I got married. Now I feel like some other motives were behind it.

  • Reply Sabrina

    August 23, 2010, 7:08 pm

    Oh, I have a wonderful small world story.

    Last year my son started college at CU in Boulder. As it turned out, over the course of orientation, I met his roommate’s best friend from high school (in the dorm room next door to my son’s) and discovered that his mother was my roommate, my sophomore year of college. What was particularly strange was that shared space was at Indiana University in Bloomington. She had graduated the year before me and we had had no contact in the 33 years since.

    So two friends from a huge university lose contact and rediscover each other when their sons end up living in the same dorm in another huge university, 1200 miles and 33 years away. It’s been lovely to be back in touch and meet every few months for a meal and catch up. The discovery also made dropping off my son much easier to take — at least for the initial drive home!

  • Reply Karna

    August 23, 2010, 7:45 pm

    It’s embarrassing how often I misplace, or lose, my wallet, debit card, sunglasses… name it.
    What truly amazes me, is when I retrace my steps, someone inevitably has turned the missing object of
    the moment in! I know, crazy lucky!

  • Reply Asa

    August 23, 2010, 9:31 pm

    I went climbing in Switzerland this summer. I climbed with a guide on a popular place for climbers – it was very busy. We went for lunch and when we walked back on the path to the rocks we met a couple who where leaving. We said hello and they said, “you didn’t forget an iPhone here earlier?” I took a look and it was mine! It must have fallen out of my backpack. It was so lucky we came back just in time to meet them before they left.

    Another more amazing story is about my father in law who commuted by train to work. One week he lost his phone on the train. A whole week after when he was on his way home from work a person in the seat behind him finds his mobile in his seat and ask my father in law, in front of him, if its his. And he gets it back.

  • Reply delialloyd

    August 23, 2010, 9:39 pm

    wow asa! amazing stories! So lucky your father in law hadn’t already bought a new one. Note to self: people who commute tend to sit in the same seats. Makes sense!

  • Reply Cathy

    August 24, 2010, 1:02 am

    Our family business is a gas station, car wash, auto repair shop and mini-mart. We see the kindness of strangers all the time. About a year ago a woman came into the mini-mart with $350.00. She was passing through town and had stopped to fill up. She says she found the money on the ground next to the pump and figured someone would be missing it shortly. It would have been so easy to just pick it up and pocket it but she didn’t. No one ever came to ask about the money and the customer was a one-timer. After a couple of months we decided to give the money to a local church who gives fuel vouchers to people who are in need. Thanks to a kind stranger several people in need were able to get some fuel for their vehicles.

  • Reply Patricia

    August 24, 2010, 2:01 am

    Librarian daughter just got her first teaching assignment in a city about 2 hours away. It is only part time and she had to fly in from her Alaska summer job for the interview and then a week later quit her job and start work here. The day after she had signed all the papers, she and Principal who had hired her had to go to the district office and sign an affidavit that they did not know each other because the Principal discovered that she was a distant cousin in law to my daughter’s fellow! Because the school is a centerpiece for low income families, the district had them sign waivers so they could not be fined in the future and my daughter could keep her job. There is the most recent bit of small world in my life, and our family is so small that that never entered our minds!

  • Reply Carmen

    August 24, 2010, 4:47 am

    When I was about 10, I found a wallet on the street. My parents arranged to have it returned (it had an I.D. card and $100 in it) and when they met the guy to give it back to him, they mentioned that their 10-year-old daughter found it. He was so grateful that he gave them $10 to give to me. Turns out he was homeless and that was about all the money he had.

  • Reply Holly

    August 24, 2010, 6:15 am

    I once left my wallet in a gas station bathroom. It was during a drive from Jackson, Mississippi, where my parents live, to Winston-Salem, North Carolina, where I was a junior in college. My car was packed, complete with a new road bike on a rack attached to the hatchback. I was excited about being on the road, on my own, probably singing along to “Roll With It” by Steve Winwood on the radio, my long hair blowing out the window and sunroof. An hour or so into the drive and paying no attention to what small town I was near, I stopped to fill up with gas. Then I took my wallet from my purse and went around the side of the building to the bathroom. As I walked back to the car, I smiled and exchanged pleasantries with the two older ladies walking toward me. They appeared to be enjoying a Sunday drive with their husbands, who were talking and laughing as they filled up their yellow Cadillac. I got back into the car and drove as long as a 1985 Toyota Corolla GTS Twin Cam 16 (man, I loved that car) could go on a full tank and pulled into a Texaco station that had a small truck stop attached. Only then did I realize my wallet was gone. After a frantic search of the car, my mind’s eye flashed to the back of a toilet where I had put it down during the last stop. No wallet. No gas. Nowhere near anyone I knew. With the help of a trucker who could sense the anxiety of a college girl in trouble (not always a happy setting for a story), I set about figuring a way out. I used the highway map on the wall, my memory of the station’s appearance (“It was on the left after I took the exit”) and the trucker’s in-depth knowledge of that strip of highway to figure out the likely station where I had left it. He gave me money for the pay phone and I soon made contact with the right station. The voice on the other end said, “I’ve got your wallet and don’t you worry honey, your money is all here–you can count it.” The truck stop cashier let me fill up on “credit,” trusting that I would pay her the next day when I started my journey again. More than twenty years later, I remember my feeling of relief, the kindness of strangers, and the pride of the clerk who guarded my wallet, knowing that, as the Cadillac ladies said, “She’ll be back, but she might be riding that bike!”


    P.S. Delia—I’ve been planning to tell you how much I enjoy your blog. The fact that I share a birthday with Kevin Bacon and had this story to share finally inspired me to write.

    • Reply delialloyd

      August 24, 2010, 9:45 am

      Holly that is the most amazing story yet-esp the part about the gas station trusting you to come back and pay for the gas the next day. Love it! Thx so much for writing (and reading!) I was thinking abt you guys just yesterday – literally. (small world mind meld, pt 2)….

  • Reply Barb @ 1 Sentence Diary

    August 24, 2010, 8:05 pm

    I was a college student traveling in Israel, using a bright red day-planner to organize my entire life. All the phone numbers of the people I was visiting, all my travel documents including plane tickets and passport (this was before the days of cell phones or e-tickets), and about 300 US Dollars in cash (which is a lot now but was an extraordinary sum for me at that time) were in that day-planner.

    I pulled it out at a pay phone to make a phone call, and somehow managed to leave it there in the phone booth. When I realized it, hours later, I was completely panicked. I asked my friend to drive me back to the phone booth, but it was no longer there. I had no idea what to do, with no identification and no money. Even finding my friends just for assistance was difficult because I didn’t have their phone numbers.

    An hour later a friend of mine who lived nearby got a phone call from the person who found it. This good Samaritan asked me a bunch of questions that she felt only the owner of the day-planner could answer, and once she was satisfied that I was indeed the owner she delivered it right to me. It had every single thing in perfect order, including all the cash.

    I tried to give her something in return, but she wouldn’t take anything. To this day, I do not know what I would have done if she hadn’t found and returned it.

  • Reply delialloyd

    August 24, 2010, 8:24 pm

    great story, Barb. those are the hardest things to replace!

  • Reply BigLittleWolf

    August 25, 2010, 7:35 pm

    Not about money, exactly, but…

    I was traveling through the USSR when I was 16 (it was the USSR then). I was part of a group of high school and college students, camping on the outskirts of each city we were touring. We were to meet up at the end of each day, to make our way back to the campgrounds.

    I managed to get lost in the Moscow subway system. My Russian was pretty basic, and apparently I was nowhere near where I needed to be. A gentleman saw me, asked what was wrong, tried to explain how I would get to my destination, saw my confusion, and ended up riding all the way with me, to make sure I got there safely.

    A kindness I’ve never forgotten.

    And speaking of kindness (and slow news days) – what about weirdness? What’s up with the British cat-trashing lady?

  • Reply delialloyd

    August 25, 2010, 8:12 pm

    nice story. re: cat trashing lady. I posted this on FB today on precisely that topic (slow news weeks…) the country was riveted!!

  • Reply Karla

    August 26, 2010, 7:11 pm

    My husband, his niece, her husband, and I all drove from San Antonio, TX to New Orleans, LA for the Rock and Roll Half Marathon. On the way back, at the TX/LA state line, we stopped at McDonald’s for lunch. Not wanting to carry my heavy “mom” purse, I only took my small wallet inside. When I went to the bathroom, I apparently left my wallet on the TP holder. After we finished lunch, just as we were getting ready to leave, and elderly woman at the next table, asked me, “Are you Karla?” Surprised that I would run into anyone I knew so far from home, I said, “Um…yeah…why?” She handed me my wallet and said she’d found it in the bathroom. I cried then at there because 1) she saved me a lot of hassle if I’d had to replace the contents of the wallet and 2) she was the sort of person who take the trouble to find the owner and return it to me. She could easily of left it there, tossed it in the trash, or gave it to the manager–and then who knows what might have happened to it.

  • Reply delialloyd

    August 26, 2010, 9:21 pm

    great story, Karla. Someone once returned my wallet from an extraordinary distance and I remember it to this day. We practically cried and embraced him – a complete stranger.

  • Reply Sarah Carter

    August 28, 2010, 9:58 pm

    It really is a small world. When I was thirteen I became best friends with a girl in my class. I spent most of my time at her house and one day we were going through some old photos at her house and I found a picture from the 70’s of a group of American college students in Mexico. Also in the picture was a man with a t.v. camera filming them. One of the students looked just like my mother, so I took the picture home and showed it to her. She was shocked. She was on an anthropology class trip and the man filming them was my friend’s father who at the time worked for a t.v. station in our home town! They had no idea they had met decades before in another country. And someone just happened to snap a photo of it.

  • Reply Howard Baldwin

    September 3, 2010, 6:08 pm

    Like an idiot, I once left my wallet on the back set of a cab getting out of the New York Hilton. I realized it almost immediately, and even though rush-hour traffic was at a standstill, I couldn’t find the cab on the street. I was talking to the Hilton security guards when one of the bellman walked in with my wallet. The cabbie had actually braved the traffic to come back, and then left the wallet without waiting for a reward or a thank-you. So much for the reputation of rude New Yorkers.

  • Reply Howard Baldwin

    September 3, 2010, 6:12 pm

    Story #2, Small world division: My wife and I were in New York one year; she was seeing friends and I was at a conference. She had plans to see a friend of hers who was a professor upstate and who was trying to date a CNN correspondent in Moscow. One of my co-workers was living in San Francisco and dating a cardiologist in Los Angeles. My wife told her friend, who was worrying about entering a long-distance relationship, about the successful long-distance relationship of my co-worker. When my wife’s friend heard the name of the LA doctor, he said, “That’s my dad’s cardiologist.”

    • Reply delialloyd

      September 3, 2010, 8:53 pm

      love this story, howard. reminds me of one where the parents of my ex were on an island in the caribbean with the parents of my husband’s ex and worked out mid-way through a conversation exactly how they were connected!

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