Tips For Adulthood: Five Reasons I Love To Blog

Every Wednesday I offer tips for adulthood.

As some of you know, last Friday was the first anniversary of RealDelia. And while I fully intended to break out the champagne…the confetti…the whole nine yards, somehow I didn’t quite pull it off. (I had hoped that my wife would throw me a party, but she was too busy that day).

So I thought that I would mark the occasion today instead, by telling you five reasons why I love to blog, and why you might like it too:

1. It helps you to find your voice. I have been writing for a long time now in my adult life. I started as a research assistant when I first got out of college. Then there was that long, hazy academic morass when I was a graduate student and then a professor. Over the past three years, it’s been a blend of personal essays, reported features and occasional fiction writing. But it was only once I started this blog that I felt that I finally found my voice as a writer, and realized that – with all my career shifts – that was what I’d been looking for all along.

2. It makes you more mindful as a person. Mindfulness is one of those new-agey terms that I deliberately avoided for awhile. But in fact, one of the great virtues of blogging – at least if you are blogging about your own life and trying to extract lessons from it – is that it makes you more aware of how you lead your life, in ways both large and small. In my own case, one of the major innovations in my personal life was my decision to stop working on Saturdays. And while I can’t attribute that decision entirely to blogging, I think that being in the habit of examining my life on a daily basis (on the blog) gave me the tools to step back and change my life.

3. You make new friends. There’s my e-BFF Sharon, of course – of Neverbloomers fame – whom I first got to know through this blog because of our shared interest in adulthood. Now we’re on Facebook, we Skype one another and I think a professional collaboration may come down the pike. But there are a whole host of people I can think of right off the top of my hat – Colleen, Mike, Kristen, Katy, LPC – to name a few, whom I never would have “met” except through blogging (OK, I did in fact meet Katy once but blogging is our bond.) And I’m so enriched because of those connections.

4. You become more disciplined. Yeah, yeah. It’s trite, I know. But it’s true what they say. When you start writing on a regular basis, it makes you a better writer. Partly because practice makes perfect. But also because you’re able to just sit down and pound it out when you really need to. Which – in my case – has come in really handy over the past nine months that I’ve also been writing for

5. You learn a ton. When I started doing this, I thought it would be fun to share my small musings about the world with other like-minded folk. And it has been loads of fun. But it turns out that the best part about blogging is what you learn from other people, either because of a comment they leave on your post, or because you subscribe to their blog, or because you encounter them haphazardly while doing some research on – say – adulthood – and then you end up staying to see what else they’ve got up their sleeve.

In that vein – and to steal a page from Nicola (another great blogger I’ve gotten to e-know), I’d love it if, in the comments section, you’d leave a link to a blog that you really like and which you think I (and readers of RealDelia) should check out. Feel free to leave your own blog’s name. I’d love to come visit.

And most of all, thank you!

Image: Blogging Research Wordle by KristinaB via Flickr under a Creative Commons License.

  • Reply Nicola Morgan

    February 3, 2010, 3:30 pm

    Oh, congrats on your first blog birthday – I had mine recently, too! And all your reasons are ones I share.

    All the best for the next year. Nx

  • Reply Amy

    February 3, 2010, 3:45 pm

    Hi Delia, Happy anniversary and congratulations. I LOVE your blog. It’s the first thing I “go to” each morning. I also enjoy reading The Happiness Project, Starfish Envy and Beyond Blue. I think you’ve referenced all of this blogs before. I’m not sure if you are a reader of Cold Antler Farm.

    This is a great blog because the author talks about how to be true to oneself which I think is a great (if not the greatest) lesson of adulthood.

  • Reply Lindsey

    February 3, 2010, 4:02 pm

    Congratulations on one year – I’ve been reading you for most of that year and really enjoy your perspective. I write a lot about midlife, and adulthood, and what it means to grow into ourselves. And parenthood. And identity. And oh, you know, lots of stuff. :)
    You and I share an affection for Kristen as well. I was thrilled to have her guest post on my blog yesterday.
    Thanks for these thoughtful comments on the riches to be gained from blogging – I wandered into this world a long time ago, 2006, and have been utterly surprised by the joy, learning, and community it has offered to me. None of that was anticipated, and is all the more delightful for the surprise of it.

    I write at


    • Reply delialloyd

      February 3, 2010, 9:02 pm

      Hi Lindsey. Thanks for dropping by. I see links to your blog all over the place (including K’s guest post the other day). I must pay an extended visit! Thx for reminding me!

  • Reply Keren David

    February 3, 2010, 4:39 pm

    Yes, yes, yes, yes and yes. I never expected blogging to bring so many good things into my life.

  • Reply Kristen @ Motherese

    February 3, 2010, 7:04 pm

    What a wonderful post! I share all of your reasons for loving blogging.

    Three of my first three stops on the daily bloggy rounds: Lindsey at (so glad to see her here in the comments section!); Big Little Wolf at; and Aidan Donnelley Rowley at All three women are, like you, Delia, the very best combination of writer-thinker-blogger.

  • Reply Eva

    February 3, 2010, 10:36 pm

    Delia, it’s hard to believe it has only been a year! Your advice and insights are so helpful, it seems you’ve been doing this forever.
    And thanks to you (and Nicola via her blog) for the celebration of sharing other blogs! What a treasure, to discover new writers I haven’t come across before.
    Warmly, Eva

  • Reply LPC

    February 4, 2010, 1:45 am

    Delia, I was just smiling as I read through this post, thinking I needed to congratulate you. Thinking how much of what you say I agree with. And then I saw that you note me as an Internet friend and I was so touched. I love your voice. I imagine you as that person who prevents her friends from bad behavior, not by shaming them but by example. And, you named my painful butt disorder, so I REALLY owe you:). Congratulations. Congratulations. So glad you are here.

  • Reply Colleen Wainwright

    February 4, 2010, 4:36 am

    Oh, HAPPY HAPPY anniversary, Delia! Hard to believe it’s only been a year—you seem like such an old hand.

    You know my old-time faves by now, but I’m (relatively) newly mad for Justine Musk (author) and Ben Casnocha (entrepreneur), both fellow travelers:

    Keep on rock-’em, sock-’em-ing it to ’em!

  • Reply Cheryl

    February 4, 2010, 3:44 pm

    Congratulations and Happy Anniversary!

    I also LOVE your blog and check it every weekday morning! I also LOVE Ree Drummond at, Penelope Trunk at and Sars at Three very different blogs but I enjoy them immensely.

  • Reply Aidan Donnelley Rowley @ Ivy League Insecurities

    February 6, 2010, 4:17 am

    Since I started blogging, I have become obsessed with the question of why I blog and why others do. I ask myself this Why Question all of the time and my answer to it shifts and evolves. I very much appreciate your observation that blogging helps us find – and hone – our voice. I could not agree more. Speaking of voices, I really enjoy yours and will be back for more of your words.

  • Reply Sarah Fain

    February 9, 2010, 4:05 pm

    I’ve been blogging for almost eight months, and I couldn’t agree more with your five reasons for loving it. I have another reason, too– it hones my thoughts and beliefs. It helps me be more definitive.

    I tend to see many sides to almost everything (except Fox News and Sarah Palin– ugh), and blogging helps me move from “well, there’s this… and there’s that… and so-and-so also has a great point… and several things could happen if I did that…” to “this is what I want” and “this is what I believe.”

    Thanks for your wonderful blog, and congratulations on turning one!

  • Reply Fiona

    August 13, 2010, 6:44 pm

    I just found you and love your blog. I especially love this post, and hope it’s okay if I publish a link to it for those who read my blog!

  • Reply krissy knox

    April 21, 2012, 12:48 pm

    Hi! I found you through Huffington Post. I guess the thing I love about blogging, and there are so many things, is that it allowed me to be creative! Maybe I should put it another way. It showed me how creative I was, which I never knew! I was also able to try new things. This gave me great excitement, as well as encouraged me, and gave me great self-esteem. I also met great new people. others who aggreed to mentor me, and those who became my peers. I learned a lot about blogging, writing, html, marketing, communications, systems, people skills, etc. It has been absolutely wonderful, and I plan to keep blogging for years to come, and to create more niche blogs. I began blogging in may 2004. thanks for a great post! :)

    • Reply delialloyd

      April 21, 2012, 1:23 pm

      Welcome, Krissy! I completely agree. You do discover your own creativity as well as your voice. And the mentoring works both ways, I find. Congrats on blogging for so long!

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